children as the best actors

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” 
― James Baldwin

true isn’t it??

Children are excellent modelers, they model not only their parents constant choices, reactions, behavior patterns but also their unconscious fears, thought process and models of understanding ..

In reality it is the unconscious brain which runs the entire show for everyone regardless of age. The modeled

Or the imitated conditioning is assimilated by the unconscious mind without any safety filters.

And  as the child grows he/she also behave in reverse modeling which is basically a  behavior pattern starkly opposite to that of their parents . They do so as a form of rebellion with conscious awareness.

A belief, emotion or state mind can useful in one situation of life but at the same time it can be harmful in another.

The harmful hurt caused by one model of understanding of a parents result in averse modeling by the child in future, even if that model is required for the situation.

A discord or conflict occurs between 2 different models of understanding when either one or both of them try to impose its superiority and edge over the other.

As a parent / guardian the responsibility of clearing the unconscious and conscious mind’s blockages or disempowering models is an essential part responsible parenting and your unconditional love for your child.

Parents,  struggle daily with their own needs and wants—spiritually, psychologically, and physically—and likewise struggle with their children, as they strive to meet their own needs and wants. they do not want to hinder their individuality or stifle their psycho-spiritual growth; yet, on the other hand, parents who need to set boundaries to provide a safe environment. They want their children to grow into loving, compassionate, caring individuals, but how do we encourage such qualities? Is there a way for them to become parents who manage to walk the razor-edged path of providing a healthy psycho-spiritual environment for children while living in the “real world”?

The answer lies in the examples you set for them. The key is balance…

Can you as individual’s be a  beautiful mixture of emotions with a wisdom of their application in right measure and uphold a model of understanding which is accommodative yet filtered and firm?